This intercultural incident happened during my summer program in Korea. Although no conflicts happened, we were ashamed of our actions.
To most of the NUS students, it is a norm to place our bags unattended on our seats in the canteen while ordering food. It served to give us an assurance that we have seats after we buy our food. While in one of the university’s canteen in Korea, we did the same thing. However, when we were queuing for food, we felt that something was amiss as some of the Korean students gave us weird stares. Few moments later, it finally dawned on me that everybody had their bags with them while queuing for food! What made it worse was that there were students with food standing around waiting for seats in the canteen while our bags were happily seated on the chairs. After we got our food, we went back to our seats, ate quickly and left the canteen feeling guilt-stricken. It was one of the worst meals I had in my life.
Frankly, I think we should have paid more attention to our surroundings before we acted. We should not have assumed that what is the norm in NUS is applicable to everywhere else. I felt that the Korean students understood that we were new exchange students, as things could have turned out ugly if they decided to throw our bags aside and sat on our seats.
This incident had made me realize that the Koreans are more of a “we” culture as by not placing their bags on the chairs, more students will get to utilize the chairs. Overall, the “efficiency” of the chairs would increase as it can serve more diners at a given period of time. Singaporeans on the other hand are more of an “I” culture as we deny others of a chance to utilize our chairs when we are queuing for food by placing our bags on the chairs. Although the “efficiency” of the chairs would decrease, being selfish creatures, we are guaranteed a seat after we buy our food. This difference in culture is also seen in trains in both Korea and Singapore. In Korea, commuters would automatically move to the center of the carriages allowing more commuters on board. While in Singapore, commuters tend to cluster near the doors of the carriages, denying others the chance to board the train.
I feel that Singaporeans have much to learn from the Koreans with regards to this aspect of their culture.
Edited: 21 Feb 2010, 1956h